This conversation represents an oral history interview with a Holy Cross alum who graduated in 1984. Along with sharing his reflections on his experiences at Holy Cross, Carmine offers personal reflection on family life, acceptance, and the relationship between LGBTQ identity, Jesuit ideals, and the Catholic Church. Interview keywords: athletics, Catholicism, college culture, coming out, counseling, donations, families, first-generation students, gay men, identity, Jesuit, LGBTQ, masculinity, normalization, reflection, student life