INTEGRATION OF CHILDREN IN FAMILY MEDIATON

Mediacija je zgodovinsko gledano, že zelo star izvensodni postopek reševanja sporov. Njeni začetki segajo že v čas sumerske kulture. Vseskozi je predstavljala sposobnost rešiti težavo brez posredovanja sodišča. Družinska mediacija je metoda, ki se uporablja za reševanje družinskih konfliktov, do katerih prihaja kljub veliki medsebojni čustveni povezanosti. Partnerja skleneta zakonsko zvezo, postaneta starša in s tem prevzameta veliko odgovornost. Vendar pa ob prenehanju njunega partnerskega odnosa, za vzdrževanje katerega se ali nista dovolj potrudila ali pa ni bilo mogoče najti rešitve, ne smeta pozabiti, da kljub vsemu, še vedno ostajata starša in da starševska vloga obstaja še naprej. Ob tem je potrebno urediti številna odprta vprašanja. Tako je družinska mediacija postopek reševanja nastalih sporov med zakoncema ob ločitvi ali razvezi, s katero se ob pomoči tretje nevtralne osebe, rešujejo odprta vprašanja glede delitve skupnega premoženja in glede urejanja razmerij med starši in otroki. V vsakem primeru ločitev staršev vpliva tudi na otroke. Pomembno je, da starša spore rešujeta čim manj obremenilno za otroke in da je takšen tudi pristop mediatorja, ki bi naj imel v ta namen ustrezna znanja in sodeluje kot udeleženec v postopku. Poglavitno vodilo družinske mediacije mora biti varstvo koristi otroka.Mediation is from a historical prospective a very old extrajudicial dispute settlement procedure. Its beginnings date back to the time of the Sumerian culture. Troughout it represented the ability to settle a dispute without the interference of the court. Family mediation is a method, used for the settlement of family conflicts, occuring despite a heavy mutual emotional connection. The partners settle a marriage, become parents and consequently take over a great responsibility. But when their partnership, for the maintenance of which they did not take enough time or they did not try hard enough or they could not find a solution, ends, they cannot forget that they are despite of all remaining parent and that the parental role goes on. In this manner it is necessary to regulate numerous open questions. Family mediation is therefore a procedure for the settlement of arising disputes between the spouses during the divorce or separation, where open questions concerning the division of property and the settlement of realationships between the children and parents, are being resolved with the help of a third neutral person. Divorce of the parents in any case also affects children. It is important that the parents settle their disputes as little stressful as possible for the children and that the approach of the mediator, who should have proper knowledge and participates in the procedure, complies with this. The main guide of family mediation should be the protection of the child’s interest