[[alternative]]Flying with Family Resilience--Grief Adjustment of Adult Children Bereavement Experience Self-narrative

[[abstract]] 本研究關注成年喪親兒女的失落的心情、悲傷的表現方式、悲傷調適的歷程，以及家庭韌力對悲傷調適之影響。在本研究中，成年喪親兒女係指研究者自己，因此選擇以自我敘說法（Self-narrative）加以呈現。研究者失落的心情持續至少兩年，除了思念、懷念方式外，父親甚至出現於夢境或幻覺。傳統社會風俗壓抑了成年人失落的情緒無處宣洩，包含責怪、逃避、憤怒、忌妒，都有可能只是用理智與意志力撐著。成年人內在的失落心情，除了對自己的自責外，還可能對他人產生憤怒、責怪親友、憤恨不平，導致親友在同樣難過自責外，還要忍受內心傷痛與承擔更多他人的言語折磨。 結論顯示：研究者喪父事件的「悲傷調適歷程」悲傷情緒會在「失落導向」或「恢復導向」或中間空白地帶來來回回不停。悲傷的表現擺盪在麻木、渴望、憤怒、失序與絕望中，最受困擾的悲傷反應：食慾減退、想從人群中退縮、最嚴重的是變得有點神經質。此外，家庭韌力能正向促進研究者學會如何調適及適應因失落帶來的生命困境，並且開啟研究者的新生活。 本研究中，以下三個研究問題都得到確認：1、家庭的信念系統，對成年人喪父的悲傷調適產生正面影響。2、家庭的組織模式，對成年人喪父的悲傷調適產生正面影響。3、家庭成員的溝通，對成年人喪父的悲傷調適產生正面影響。 研究反思：成年人應當注意生活意義的失落，可能影響生活品質。加上傳統社會文化的壓抑，成年人失落的情緒可能無處宣洩，不能專心在工作上，因此，可以透過悲傷輔導（Grief Counseling）與生死教育（Education about Life and Death）的課程，協助建立一個出口宣洩。[[abstract]] The purpose of this study was to investigate the feelings of loss, the expression of grief, the process of grief adjustment, and the effect of family resilience on grief adjustment in adults who bereaved their parents. In this study, the bereaved adults refer to the researchers themselves. Therefore, the self-narrative method was applied to the study. The researchers' feeling of loss lasted for at least two years, including missing and thinking and their father even appeared in dream or hallucination. The traditional social customs have repressed their emotions and nowhere to let off, including blame, avoidance, anger, and envy; they may just survive by intellect and willpower. In addition to remorse for themselves, their inner feelings of loss may also cause anger towards others and scold relatives and friends when their relatives are also under the suffer and have to tolerate the inner grief and bear more verbal torture from others. The results of the study were that the sad emotion in the ”grief adjustment process” appeared intermittently among the ”loss-oriented”, ”recovery-oriented” or the blanks. The expression of grief showed up in the form of numbness, longing, anger, disorder and despair and the most perplexed reactions are loss of appetite, shrink back from the crowd and the worst was a little neurotic. Moreover, family resilience can positively promote researchers to learn how to adjust and adapt the life dilemmas caused by the sense of loss, and launch a new life. The study confirmed that the following three factors have positive effect on grief adjustment. 1. The family faith 2. The family organizational model 3. The communication among family members. Research reflection: Adults should pay attention to the loss of life, which may impact the quality of life. Due to the repression of traditional social culture, adults may have nowhere to let off their lost emotions and can’t concentrate on their work. Therefore, the courses of Grief Counseling and Education about Life and Death can be used to help establish an emotional outlet