RELASI ANTARA LAKI-LAKI DAN PEREMPUAN DALAM RUMAH TANGGA (PERSPEKTIF FEMINISME, MENINISME, DAN ISLAM)

The feminism movement is known as the movement that fighting for the rights of women both in domestic or social domains. In general, feminism believes that women are oppressed by men, by patriarchal power both within the scope of civilization or household. In addition, power relation is also in the spotlight of this movement, they believe that men have a privilege in its existence as men than women. Another movement emerged, criticized the standard ideas of modern feminism. This movement is nicknamed as meninism, the purpose of this movement is to questioning the theories and claims carried out by feminist groups, and reverse those theories. Meninism also claims that currently men have no power and privilege even from the beginning of time, both in social or domestic scope, and men currently in an oppressed state. This interesting debate causes differences in assessing relations between men and women, especially in the household scope. From the description the main problem is obtained, how the perspective differences between feminism and the meninism regarding the relations of men and women in the household. Furthermore, how the Islamic views (traditional fiqh) regarding the perspective between feminism and the meninism on male and female relations in the household. The type of this research is literature research or library research, which it primary and secondary sources coming from books and literature. The nature of this research is comparative research. Data will be analyzed by being described, then compared, and tested using existing theories such as privileges, reverse theory, Maqa>s}id and Epicurean ethics. Feminism and meninism have different views on relations between men and women, mainly in the household scope. Feminism considers since the initial relations between men and women both in public and domestic scope are relations between oppression and oppressed. In the household, women are objects and men are owners. Therefore household institutions must be reformed so women and men can be truly equal, and ensure women to continue to get their rights. Meanwhile some of the meninist argues that even before emerge of feminism men have been harmed more than women, especially in household circumstances. When feminist movements are growing, the community views of the world became more gynocentric and misandry start to emerging. The similarity between these two streams is, feminism and the meninism both of them requires full equality in the relations between men and women, both in public or private realms. The difference is, each party bases their demands of equality on the misery of different gender, and what system they think is in power. Feminism still sees patriarchy as the origin of women's suffering. Whereas the meninism considers gynocentric arising because of the feminism movement, is the cause of male suffering. Islam does not side with both parties, both feminism or meninism, because since the beginning, the Islamic principle (traditionally, in the perspective of Fiqh) is not compatible with the interpretation of feminism (as in this study) and the meninism that requires fullness of equality between men and women. The family leadership remains in the husband even though it is attached with to two relations, namely wilayah, dan qawa>mah