How Love is Perceived by Malaysian Malay Children

This paper explores how love is perceived by Malaysian Malay children from two perspectives: parental love and their own expression of love. They were volunteers who agreed to participate in the study. Their ages ranged from 10 to 12 years old and they were school going Malay children. Four questions were posed to gather their written responses. Due to some incomplete answers, a total of 93 sets of data were found to be suitable for analysis. Using the love language categories proposed, data were then categorised accordingly. Findings suggest that majority of the children perceive their parent’s love language as ‘Acts of service’ and ‘Receiving gifts’ and to a small extent, ‘Physical touch’. Similarly, the love language expressed by majority of the Malay childrenencompass ‘Acts of service’ and ‘Receiving gifts’. This could indicate that theexpression of love in a Malaysian Malay context could be influenced by theparenting styles. However, about a quarter of the total responses did not fit intothe categories proposed. This implies that the love language of the MalaysianMalay children cannot be completely analysed through a western model and thatsome cultural differences exist. Due to the small sample, the outcome of thisstudy cannot be generalised but it is an eye opener for parents, psychologists andforeigners alike who may use this information to better understand how theMalaysian Malay family functions. This information could increase a moreharmonious interaction among different cultures in the future