Funding: UK ESPRC grant number EP/R014604/1, and partially supported by a grant from the Simons Foundation (PJC, CMR-D); ESPRC grant number EP/R014604/1, St Leonard’s International Doctoral Fees Scholarship, School of Mathematics & Statistics PhD Funding Scholarship at the University of St Andrews (SDF).For a nilpotent group G, let nc(G) be the difference between the complement of the generating graph of G and the commuting graph of G, with vertices corresponding to central elements of G removed. That is, nc(G) has vertex set G \ Z(G), with two vertices adjacent if and only if they do not commute and do not generate G. Additionally, let nd(G) be the subgraph of nc(G) induced by its non-isolated vertices. We show that if nc(G) has an edge, t...