Men’s experiences of female-perpetrated intimate partner violence: A qualitative exploration

The subject of female-perpetuated intimate partner violence (IPV) against men has been one of controversy, with well-rehearsed arguments surrounding both the nature and existence of female-perpetrated abuse against men. This experiential research study explored the experiences of 23 men who self-identified as having experienced female-perpetrated IPV. Semi-structured interviews explored the men’s experiences of both physical and emotional abuse, as well as barriers to leaving their abusive relationship(s), and their experiences of seeking help. Thematic analysis of the interviews revealed that the men’s experience of being in an abusive relationship was traumatic and had a negative impact on both their physical and psychological well-being. The importance of maintaining a sense of masculinity consistently underpinned the men’s narratives. Some participants described feeling shame and embarrassment for not having met dominant cultural expectations surrounding the roles of men in heterosexual relationships. Frequently the participants reported that a fear of being judged or not being believed was a significant barrier to seeking help. The lack of recognition and understanding of male IPV within society was of concern to most of the men. Some participants outlined a desire to use their own experiences in order to help other men in abusive relationships. These findings offer important implications for understanding IPV against men and developing enhanced sources of support