Vzpostavljanje varne navezanosti kot temelj dela s posamezniki, pari in družino

Theory of attachment has radically changed the way we understand human relationships and work with people today. Understanding relationships as processes of mutual affect regulation has opened the door to a new generation of approaches to clinical work, prevention and education. Therapeutic research and practical work with clients show that providing relational safety, or a secure base, is a necessary precondition for working with vulnerable populations. In the article three fundamental shifts in our understanding of therapeutic and preventive work are presented and described with the help of examples of good practice. First, a child is dependent on adult caregivers for her/his emotional and physical well-being; second, parenting starts from the inside out, and third, family relationships are an intergenerational attachment-driven system. Designing effective interventions in cases of shame- and fear-based family systems requires paying special attention to this aspect of insecure attachment.Teorija navezanosti je eden od mejnikov v raziskovanju in razumevanju dela z ljudmi. Razumevanje odnosov kot vzajemnih, torej dvostranskih, in kot razmerij, v katerih gre za regulacijo afektov, odpira povsem nov pogled na različne oblike dela z ljudmi, tako klinične kot preventivne in izobraževalne. Raziskave in dolgoletna terapevtska praksa kažejo, da je ustrezna oblika pomoči oziroma okvir za kakovostno delo z ljudmi samo tista, ki zagotavlja varnost. Torej varno zavetje, kadar posamezniki prihajajo iz nevarnih okolij in razmer ter izkušenj, in trdno izhodišče za posameznike, ki želijo razširiti, preoblikovati in na novo vzpostaviti nekatere vidike svojega življenja in odnosov. V našem prispevku bomo predstavili tri temeljne premike v pojmovanju tega dela in opisali primere konkretnih praks oziroma novih oblik dela, ki iz teh premikov izhajajo. Ti trije mejniki so: drugačno pojmovanje otroka (otrok kot odvisen od odraslih), drugačno pojmovanje starševstva oziroma na otroka usmerjeno starševstvo ali notranje starševstvo in drugačno delo z družino kot sistemom, ki ga zaznamujejo globoke vezi navezanosti, od katerih je v veliki meri odvisno, kako se bosta sistem in posameznik znotraj sistema razvijala ter kako morajo biti oblikovane intervence, kadar gre za sisteme, ki temeljijo na sramu, strahu in nevarnih obli kah navezanosti