In this paper we explore lay people's discussions of the controversial topic of social sex selection (SSS). In the UK and many other countries, SSS is prohibited by law. In 2003 the UK Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority, after an extensive public consultation, decided against changing the existing legislation. However, this initiative and similar consultation exercises have been criticised on the grounds that public opinion is poorly informed and reasoned. In our study, one of the most consistently expressed ideas was that children should be regarded as 'a gift' rather than 'a commodity'. In contrast, the 'gift not a commodity' argument is rarely cited positively in Anglo-American, secular-liberal bioethics. These metaphorical sta...