Participation in family activities: example of seafarers in Split

Pomorstvo je više od samog zanimanja, ono predstavlja čitav životni stil koji utječe kako na njih, tako i na njihove obitelji. U ovom diplomskom radu bavili smo se utjecajem odsutnosti supruga, odnosno oca pomorca na organizaciju kućanstva i odnose u obitelji, kao i na njihovo zadovoljstvo istim. Željeli smo procijeniti participiranje pojedinog partnera u obiteljskom životu, utvrditi i usporediti stavove o prednostima i nedostacima braka „na daljinu“, te ispitati je li brak „na daljinu“ produkt želje pojedinog partnera ili „nužno zlo“. Istraživanjem smo otkrile kako su, u brakovima pomoraca, barem prema mišljenju sugovornika i sugovornica koji su pristupili intervjuu, supruge u potpunosti zaslužne za funkcioniranje njihovog kućanstva. Većina intervjuiranih pomoraca smatra kako veću žrtvu u njihovom zajedničkom životu snosi njihova supruga, a one su se većinom složile kako je njihova žrtva podjednaka. Prednosti pomorstva su, prema sugovornicima ovog istraživanja, osigurane financije, te vrijeme kojeg, kada su kod kuće, pomorci mogu u potpunosti posvetiti sebi i svojim obiteljima. Navode i mogućnost putovanja i upoznavanja različitih ljudi i kultura, mogućnost napredovanja i bolje radne uvjete. Najveći nedostatak je odvojenost od obitelji. Odmah iza toga slijedi „gubljenje konaca“ na kopnu, odnosno oslabljene veze s ljudima i događajima kod kuće, ali i gubljenje kontakta sa stvarnošću. Uz to, ispitane supruge pomoraca nadodaju kako je veliki nedostatak što većinu stvari moraju obavljati same. Većina pomoraca i njihovih supruga je zadovoljna svojim životom i brakom „na daljinu“, ističući kako je pomorstvo dvosjekli mač, upravo iz netom opisanih prednosti i nedostataka koji su u jednakoj mjeri zastupljeni.Maritime is more than just a profession, it represents a whole lifestyle that affects seafarers and their families. In this thesis we dealt with the influence of the absence of the husband/father seafarer on the organization of the household and relations in the family, as well as their satisfaction with them. We wanted to evaluate the involvement of husbands and wives in family life, to establish and compare attitudes about the advantages and disadvantages of "distance" marriage, and to examine whether "distance" marriage was a product of the desire of an individual partner or a "necessary evil". Research has revealed that, in marriages of seafarers, at least in the opinion of the interviewees who approached the interview, wives are fully credited with the functioning of their household. Most of the seafarers surveyed believe that the greater sacrifice in their life together is borne by their spouse, and the wives mostly agree that their sacrifice is equal. According to the interviewees in this research, the benefits of seafaring are secured finances, and the time that, when they are at home, seafarers can fully devote to themselves and their families. They also mention the ability to travel and get to know different people and cultures, the opportunity to thrive and better working conditions. The biggest defect is separation from family. This is followed by "losing the thread" on land and weakened connections with people and events at home, but also losing touch with reality. In addition, the surveyed wives of the seafarers add that a major disadvantage is that they have to do most of the things themselves. Most sailors and their wives are satisfied with their lives and long-distance marriage, pointing out that seafaring is a double-edged sword, precisely from the recently described advantages and disadvantages that are equally represented