Knowing me, knowing you : a study of relationships between adopted children and their grandparents

The way in which relationships develop between adopted children and their 'new' grandparents is a matter of great interest to adoptive families and those working with them. However, it has received little attention in the academic or clinical literature. This study seeks to explore this aspect of family life. At the heart of the study is a set of qualitative interviews with six adoptive families. All three generations were involved. The interviews were analysed using two approaches: Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis, and an approach viewing the respondent as a 'defended psychosocial subject'. From the findings, which are presented using the case study method, there emerges a picture of grandparents as being of great significance within the adoptive families. Their attitude towards adoption, and towards the adopted children, appears as especially significant. Adoption involves three generations. This study then develops a theoretical understanding of the findings. The grandparent is a "witness" to the adopter as a parent. Developmental processes, such as the child's gradual separation from the mother, are worked out differently within adoptive families, and this takes place within the 'family field'. The study concludes with recommendations for practice and policy. This study will be of relevance, not only to members of adoptive families and those working with them, but also to those involved with other family forms, such as step-families and foster families