There Will Be More Cookies : A Discursive Exploration of Polyamorous Identity in a Monogamous World

Monogamous romantic relationships are the standard by which to engage in relationships in the United States. Despite the pervasiveness of monogamy, polyamorous romantic relationships are growing. Polyamory is an approach to romantic relationships that includes engaging sexually and emotionally with multiple people simultaneously, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved (Polyamory, 2015). This study explores how individuals who identify as polyamorous construct personal and relational identities in a monogamous world. Using relational dialectics theory 2.0 and queer theory, the study examined self-recorded conversations of 21 polyamorous participants and their partner(s). Participant talk surrounding polyamorous personal and relational identity voiced the discourse of mono-deconstruction and the discourse of poly-production. The discourse of mono-normativity was also present in the data. Participant talk surrounding polyamorous personal and relational identity was dialogically rich, demonstrating interplay and transformative dialogue. Metaphoric transformation is introduced, which is the use of metaphor to create new meanings in communication