On laughter and loss : Children's views of shared time, parenting and security post-separation

Among the research, practice and socio-legal commentary on the substantial sharing of parenting time after separation, children's voices about their experiences remain overwhelmingly silent. This article draws on findings of a descriptive phenomenological study which investigated Australian school-aged (8- to 12-year-old) children's descriptions of two binary phenomena: security and contentment in shared time arrangements, and the absence of security and contentment in shared time parenting. Specifically, this article focuses on exploring parental behaviours and interactions recognised by children as sources of security in shared time lifestyles, through happy and needy times. Central to this is the juxtaposition of the child's experience of security and shared enjoyment with the present parent, against the absence of security emanating from unresolved longing for the 'absent' parent. The article provides an empirically derived formulation of children's advice to parents about shared time parenting, with relevance for family law related parent education forums. © The Author(s) 2015