The Impact of Divorce of Parents on the Child's Behavior and Development

Sve više ljudi sklapa brak iz ljubavi, usprkos vaţnosti ljubavi u braku, partneri jako malo znaju o toj ljubavi. O tome koje su vrste ljubavi, odrednice ljubavi, kako se ljubav mijenja tijekom vremena, utjecaj rođenja djeteta na ljubav i mnoge druge čimbenike koji oblikuju ljubav u braku. Osim ljubavi u braku je iznimno bitna komunikacija, kompromis, razumijevanje i poštovanje. To su samo neke od odrednica koje ĉine kvalitetan brak. Kada se brak ne temelji na ovim odrednica dolazi do sukoba, svađa, pa ĉak i nasilja u obitelji. Kada u takvoj obitelji boravi dijete i ako ne postoji niti jedno bolje rješenje, onda je najbolje rješenje rastava braka. Rastava braka ne donosi sa sobom mir u obitelj, već razdvojenost, tugu, usamljenost i mnoge druge negativne emocije. Ipak daleko najteže je djetetu na kojeg rastava braka ostavlja ponekad i trajne posljedice. Utjecaj razvoda nije samo na roditelje, već i na poremećaje u ponašanju i razvoju djece. Dijete negodovanjem iskazuje svoje reakcije na svaku promjenu u svom životu, pa tako i na razvod roditelja. Uz potpunu roditeljsku podršku i ljubav, značajnu ulogu u procesu prihvaćanja razvoda ima i odgojno obrazovni sustav. Dijete tijekom razvoda gubi sigurnost u vlastitom domu, uloga odgajatelja je da dijete zadrži sigurnost u svom vrtiću, te pomoći djetetu u prilagođavanju novonastale situacije.There has been an increasing number of people who get married for love. Notwithstanding the importance of love in marriage, partners know little about it. They are not familiar with determinants of love and do not understand that love can change and can be affected, for instance, by a childbirth. There are other factors that affect love in marriage, about which the spouses are largely ignorant. Communication, comproise, mutual understanding and respect are of utmost impedance in a marriage as well. These are only some of the factors that make a quality and functional marriage. When a marriage is disfunctional and devoid of all important determinants needed for a successful marriage it can result in conflicts, quarrels and even domestic violence. When this happens, a separation is a better option. Nevertheless, a divorce does not bring peace to a family since it results in separation, grief, loveliness and a lot of negative emotions. Adivorce does not only affect the parents, but it can also have long-term consequences as for as children are concerned. If unables to accept ther parents divorce, children can develop behavioral disorders and have stunted development. Reluctant to accept any negative change in life, they react in a negative way to a divorce. However, if provided with parental unreserved support and love, children may accept a separation in an easier way. Educational system and institutions play an important role in this as well. Children feel that they lack safety in their own home during a divorce period. Therefore, it is a kinergarten teacher’s role and duty to ensure that thay feel safe and secure in their kindergarten by helping them to adapt to new life circumstances