Forgiveness in marriage and partner relationships

V našem magistrskem delu smo raziskovali odpuščanje v zakonu in partnerskem odnosu, in sicer kako se z odpuščanjem soočajo in spoprijemajo tisti, ki se s tem pojavom ne ukvarjajo profesionalno (npr. v terapevtski praksi). Logičnemu časovnemu zaporedju korakov odpuščanja je sledil tudi osrednji teoretični del magistrskega dela. V slednjem smo se dotaknili tudi sorodnih pojmov iz družine odpuščanja, ki sovpadajo s samim procesom odpuščanja in jih v splošni govorici pogosto zamenjujemo z odpuščanjem samim. Dotaknili smo se tudi religioznega vidika odpuščanja kot izvirnega okolja, kjer se o odpuščanju govori že vrsto stoletij. Prav tako pa smo se kratko ustavili ob vprašanju odpuščanja kot poti svobodne odločitve oziroma Božje milosti. Slednje smo se dotaknili tudi iz razloga, ker so nekateri izmed poročenih udeležencev v intervjuju omenjali osebni odnos z Bogom, vero v zakramentalnost zakona in vero v moč odpuščanja. V fenomenološki kvalitativni raziskavi smo opravili intervjuje z udeleženci o izkušnji, ko jim je sozakonec oz. partner odpustil. Iz transkriptov intervjujev so se izrisale ključne teme s podtemami, ki so jih izpostavili udeleženci. Teme smo uredili v časovno sosledje, in sicer vse od dogodka krivice, neprijetnih telesnih in čustvenih stanj, preko zavedanja krivice in vstopa v proces odpuščanja, vse do prijetnih telesnih ter čustvenih stanj po odpuščanju in občutka umirjenosti. Magistrsko delo je torej prepletajoča se celota dinamike odpuščanja oziroma obžalovanja krivice med žrtvijo oziroma storilcem, kar kaže, da sta si sicer na prvi pogled diametralno nasprotna vidika tesno blizu. Kajti tudi storilec je bil v svoji preteklosti nedolžna žrtev krivičnega dejanja, ki ga ni znal oziroma zmogel predelati, za kar se mu ponudi nova možnost predelave v zakonskem oziroma partnerskem odnosu.In our master thesis, we researched forgiveness in marital and partner relationship. We focused on how people who are not professionally engaged in therapeutic practice confront and deal with forgiveness. The main theoretical part of the master thesis followed the logical timeline of a forgiveness process. It also touched upon the terms related to forgiveness which coincide with the process itself and are often confused when speaking generally of forgiveness. We also addressed forgiveness in relation to religion as the original environment where forgiveness has been spoken about for centuries. We briefly focused on the question of forgiveness as the path of personal free will or God\u27s grace. We touched on the latter also because some of the married participants mentioned personal relationship with God, faith in the sacramental marriage and faith in the power of forgiveness in the interview. As part of the phenomenological qualitative research, we interviewed people about their experience of forgiveness in partner or marital relationship. The transcript of the interviews showed the key themes and subthemes highlighted by the participants. We arranged the themes chronologically, from the occurrence of injustice, unpleasant physical and emotional states, the awareness of injustice and entry into the process of forgiveness, to the pleasant physical and emotional states after the forgiveness and the sense of calmness. The master thesis is therefore an intertwining whole of forgiveness and regret dynamics in the victim and perpetrator. The thesis shows that these, at first glance, diametrically opposite aspects are actually very close to each other since the perpetrator was also an innocent victim of an act of injustice in his or her past, which he or she could not or did not know how to process. The perpetrator is offered a new possibility of addressing this injustice in a marital or partner relationship