[[alternative]]The Research of Unmarried Men's Marital Viewpoints

[[abstract]]Among all of the social systems, marriage is the most popular and closest social group. But on the trend of social transition, it is inevitable to have some impacts on one’s viewpoints of marriage. If one can have some ideas, which can keep with the time, it will be helpful to solve the problems of marriage. Thus, this research chooses six unmarried men ranked from 20 to 30 years old to be the samples and explores the content of their marital viewpoints by interview. The research can show unmarried men’s true attitudes toward some related issues such as the meaning of marriage, mate selection, roles of marriage, and so forth. Further, the research analyzes the factors of constructing unmarried men’s marital viewpoints by the Ecological System Theory, Social Learning Theory, and Social Exchange Theory. Finally, the research also discusses the impact on the demarcation behavior and marriage slope of “Husbands works outside, and wives stay at home” on unmarried men’s attitudes of marriage, and criticizes the traditional roles of husbands and wives. For unmarried men, the research finds they divided the meaning of marriage into some aspects such as society, psychology, biology, law, economy, and so on. The meaning of marriage in social aspects is not only to follow social norms and gain the agreement but also doubt the necessity of marriage. The meaning of marriage in psychological aspects is to realize oneself and know what to do and where to go next in one’s mind. The meaning of marriage in biological aspects is to accomplish the mission of generation. However, with the liberation of sex, the marriage function which to fulfill of the physical satisfaction declines gradually. In law aspects, it can confirm couples’ relationships and offspring’s status in their family. In economic aspects, unmarried men think that they can become double-income family, yet expensing more with increasing family members than before. Under the traditional expectation and norms, raising family is men’s bounden duty but marriage brings them heavy economic pressures. In aspects of mate selection, unmarried men’s attitudes of marriage can be mainly divided into two parts, attitudes to marriage market and mate selection. They think the spouse is the best choice they can choose for the marriage, and the essence of mate selection is an exchanging process, which gets the most advantages on the lowest cost. But behind one’s simple personal freedom of mate selection, the fact is the extent of freedom would be limited by social standards. How rich the unmarried man is, for instances, could affect the range of his mate selection. With more and more requirements on finance in marriage market, most unmarried men tend to accept it and regard money as a critical factor in marriage. Some would extend their wedding dates and make money first; others think there are some differences between ideality and reality and doubt that finance is not the only standard to determine whether to be married or not. Every person has his unique thought; so mate selection behavior finally can be a process of one’s self-examination. In this research, the expectation to couples, unmarried men basically still agree with the demarcation behavior, “Husbands works outside, and wives stay at home”. So it is convinced that Mother’s duty is gifted and men can never keep up with them. In the aspects of female employing, unmarried men neither prohibit them nor encourage them. Although most investigators have some traditional ideology, the demarcation behavior alters gradually with the change of our society and the increasing number of female employment. Unmarried men feel it is impossible to leave all housework to their wives; they should help their wives or share the housework together. In housework demarcation, they step further. For some special facts, unmarried men have some contradictive expectation between modern and traditional wives. They seem to emphasis less on beauty or housework handling, but more on the communication to each other. In addition, they also expect their ideal wives can take care of every thing in the family as well as be helpful to husbands’ work. According to the qualitative research methods, the contents of this research explore more details but we cannot ratiocinate the matrix. And subjected to limited time, the research do not study other aspects about unmarried men besides meaning of some relative aspects of marriage, mate selection, and roles husbands and wives play in marriage; the research was completed independently, so the personal subject thoughts will be inevitable. The research expects the conclusion can guide the society to concentrate on the fact that views of marriage is changing, and contributes the results to future relative researches and lessons, and give some reference to the legislators.